David is a recovering addict and has been all week trying to stay sober. He drove home from his AA meeting excited about an awareness that opened up new insights into why it has been difficult to stay sober all week. As he walked in through the front door, his partner Alice said to him" About time you got home, what a day I had with the kids. Alan needs a bath." David silently felt resentful and shrugged his shoulders and said "OK", and walked past his partner to tend to his son.
What should these couples do in this situation? How can they fix this situation?
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ReplyDeletePartners should know something about their significant other world. It’s sharing the day to day experiences that will bring them closer together.
ReplyDeleteDavid and Alice should take time to catch up with each other and talk about their day. They should set a time each night after Alan’s bath to give an update about each other’s day. This in turn, will give a sense of knowing your partner’s world and as well as knowing and understanding your partner. David could talk about how he enjoyed his AA meeting. He could also share his feelings about what he is learning and also what he is learning about himself. If David asked Alice about her day and talk about how she’s feeling, this will make Alice feel like David cares about her and her struggles at home. The goal that these couples should try to accomplish is to listen and understand more about their partner’s world rather than trying to give advice.